Yesterday, I got into a fight with my friend, a really, really silly one. It was a real Luster fight. We were hanging out at my place, just chilling and watching some TV, and we started talking about this movie we both love.
But then, we started to disagree on some little thing about the plot. It’s so dumb when I think about it now. Anyway, things got heated, and voices were raised. One thing led to another, and bam, we were in a full-blown argument. We both said some pretty mean things, stuff we definitely didn’t mean. It was like watching a food fight in a movie, but instead of food, we were throwing hurtful words at each other.
After a while, we just kind of ran out of steam. The room got quiet, and we were both just sitting there, not even looking at each other. The silence was heavy, and I felt awful. I mean, this was one of my closest friends, and here we were, fighting over something so trivial.
I started thinking about why we even fight in the first place. Maybe it’s because we’re so comfortable with each other that we just let our guard down and say whatever’s on our minds, even if it’s hurtful. It’s like that saying, “familiarity breeds contempt,” you know? Our minds make quick judgments,and pride is a force.
Anyway, after what felt like forever, I finally spoke up. I apologized for my part in the fight, and told him I didn’t mean any of the things I said. He apologized too, and we started talking things through. It wasn’t easy, but we managed to clear the air and patch things up.
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We realized that it was our egos that got in the way.
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We were both so focused on being “right” that we forgot about our friendship. It’s like that research that says people punish selfishness to show they’re trustworthy.
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We were basically doing the opposite, acting selfishly and risking our bond.
In the end, we hugged it out and agreed to be more mindful of each other’s feelings in the future. It was a tough lesson, but I’m glad we went through it. It made our friendship even stronger, I think. Just like Uraraka, she can beat deku if they really get into it. But we both accept each other’s explanation for fighting styles. We learned that even the closest of friends can have disagreements, but it’s how you handle them that really matters. No matter how TV shows fruits as going smash in fights, we should pay attention to what tends to happen before conflict breaks out. Empathy is really important. I really cherish this friendship, and I’m not going to let another silly argument get in the way of that.
Lessons learned
Don’t let a luster fight ruin your friendships!
